Take Your Eyes Off the Problem

Challenger Anniversary

This past week was the 37th anniversary of the Challenger explosion.  I was a child when the explosion happened, but I still remember it well.  The photo I’ve shared was taken at the Air Zoo Museum down near Portage MI.  My parents, Ben and I all went on a trip there a few years ago, and I found myself drawn to their exhibit.  As a young child, astronaut had been near the top of my career choices.  I admired Christa McAuliffe because she was a teacher and an astronaut, two of my top career choices.  I remember feeling great sadness the day she died, even though I’d never actually met her. 

Time is such a funny thing.  In some ways, it still feels like the Challenger explosion happened yesterday, and in other ways, it feels like it happened a lifetime ago.  So many big events in life seem to be that way. 

Exercise and a Little Sunshine

With winter in full swing, it’s been difficult to get outside to exercise in the way I like to.  I’ve been finding our basset hound puppy is great exercise, especially because she loves to play tug-of-war and will play with me as I walk.  We have so much fun, and it’s been a great way to get energy out for both of us, me walking the house with her pulling on a toy as I walk.  It’s also a really great way to strengthen my muscles.  She weighs over 50 lbs and is a very strong dog.

It’s been nice to see a little sunshine too.  The clouds have been hanging on, with very little sun this winter.  We’ve had a few days where the sun peeked out for a short time.  It’s bitter cold outside, but beautiful at the same time. 

Take Your Eyes Off The Problem

This week, one of our dogs got the tie-out she was on wrapped around a tree.  Our yard is not fenced in, so we either walk the dogs on a leash or let them out on a tie-out if they want out.  Our basset hound puppy is learning how not to get tangeled around trees outside, but this week, she found herself wrapped around one with the tie-out.

Around and around she went, trying to make the problem better, but it just made it worse.  I tried to help her, but she still kept going the wrong way as she tried to solve the problem herself.  Finally, I went inside and brought out a treat.  It took her eyes off the problem for a moment.  Carefully, I led her round and round the tree, keeping her eyes on the treat as we slowly got her untangled.  Once she was free, she ran excitedly back to the house. 

After I thought about this situation later, I realized the problem was solved when she took her eyes off it.  It reminded me of our own lives.  Too often, I focus on a problem.  I want to get unstuck from something, so I go round and round until I find myself tangled up even worse than I was to begin with.  It’s only when I take my eyes off my problems and focus on where God is leading me that I can get unstuck. 

People have often told me they don’t understand how I’ve handled things as well as I have with everything going on.  It’s not that I don’t have bad days, I do.  It’s that I keep coming back to the One who can truly handle my problems, the One who has the solution.  So even on the really tough days, when I’m hurting, or frustrated and just don’t know what to do next, I can lean on the fact that my Father in Heaven knows exactly what to do, even if I can’t see it.  It’s trusting in that that is hard.  Sometimes it feels like it’s easier to just keep trying on my own, keep going around and around and maybe one of these times I’ll get it right and things will go like they should.  But they don’t.  It’s not until I take my eyes off the problems and focus on the One who can truly guide me in the right direction that things begin to turn around.  It’s easier said than done.  On the really bad days, it’s hard to remember that there’s a God in charge of the situation no matter what I’m facing.  But when I take my eyes off the problem, I truly am set free. 

New Years Projects 2023

Every year, I set goals for myself. I used to do this on social media, but in recent years, the settings have changed, so I’ve switched to a blog format over the past couple of years. You can find my goals from 2020 going into 2021 here: 2020 Goals, and my goals from 2021, going into 2022 here: 2021 Goals.

Why do I set goals? Because I believe setting goals helps us to make a plan and follow it to get to where we want to be. Do I always stick with the plan 100%? No. Life gets in the way, and things happen, but I strive to make progress on my goals throughout the year as much as possible. Sometimes I’m more successful at it than other times. I often set my goals around projects. Projects are anything that takes time and energy, and in order to complete those projects in a timely manner, I need a plan. Setting goals around those projects help me to make a plan to get things done.

My goals for 2022 were as follows, along with how I did on each goal.

  1. By December 31, 2022, I will write a book, edit it, send it to beta readers, and seek out getting it published. In many ways, this goal was too much for one year with everything else going on. I did manage to write quite a bit, (over 100,000 words) and did some editing too. A couple of years ago, 100,000 wouldn’t have felt like much, but since the accident, it’s more than I could have done a year ago, so I’ll take it.
  2. By December 31, 2022, I will make time to enjoy a variety of my hobbies each week, including in music, reading, photography, birdwatching, arts and crafts, and writing.  I continue to work on this. Next year, one of my goals is going to be around building habits in addition to a hobbies goal. I enjoyed more hobbies than I have in a long time, setup my piano once again with my music books, read more fiction books than I’ve read in years, took a lot of photos, and managed to get a little bit of arts and crafts in. I did a little bit of birdwatching, but not a lot.
  3. By December 31, 2022, I will gain strength and become more physically fit. I did well on this goal until winter hit. For most of 2022, I was outside several days a week hiking, playing tennis, frisbee golf, or heading inside to the gym. Once winter hit, it has been harder to get out. I’m sort of keeping this goal for next year but working into habits instead of a separate goal.
  4. By December 31, 2022, I will complete tasks around the house following weekly, monthly, and yearly checklists. We got a lot of tasks done around this house this year! There is still more I want to do, but we moved my hobby room and converted it into an office, started a new space for the hobby room, then decided to change that up as well. So next year, that will be one of our goals.
  5. By December 31, 2022, I will create and carry out goals related to work, including teaching, blogging and photography. This was the toughest goal to write, but perhaps one of the easiest to carry out because it was so broad. I’ve blogged sporadically throughout the year but want to get more consistent at it. I started a new teaching job, teaching online and explored some new projects. I’m sure I’ll go into more detail as time goes on, but for now, I’m not talking a lot about those projects since they are just getting started.

Goals for next year (2023):

One thing I learned during 2022 by tracking my goals so closely is that I really can only do about 3-4 goals per month. As such, I will have five goals this coming year, but every month, one of those goals will not be focused on. I even made out a list for myself of what to focus on when! 😉 I’ve added a sample below, for anyone interested in trying something similar. My personal one is colored coded, but the one below is much simpler. There is one goal, building routines, that I will work on all year because it is important to keep the momentum when you are trying to build new habits.

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My goals for 2023:

1.Writing.

  • Isn’t this a goal every year? 😄 By December 31, 2023, I will have organized my series more and finished up some of the books in it. I am finding that having a book ready to send out to publishing is difficult when you are writing a series that constantly changes the first book. This year, I tried to make myself just write the first book and get it out, but I quickly discovered it was a really fast way to dislike and dread my own writing. I backtracked, wrote about half of one of the later books in the series, and about 1/4 of another one. It’s a rather large series, and I’ve been looking at some ideas to help me write the first part of the series without trying to force it.

2. Birdwatch

  • By December 31,2023, I will have spotted and photographed at least 120 different birds (average of 10 new birds per month) and completed my own Michigan Big Year. I love birdwatching. One of my goals for this coming year is to spot and photograph as many different species of birds as I can.

3. Habits:

  • By December 31,2023, I will build routines around the areas of music (piano/guitar), hobbies, chores and fitness. I did this last year with reading and have read more fiction books than I have in a long time. I read the book Atomic Habits by James Clear last year and found it to be very informative and helpful. I want to learn to play more piano and guitar, build in my hobbies as part of my regular routine, create a better routine for household chores, and build habits to help me maintain fitness goals year-round. Some of these will likely be goals that carry over into next year, but I want to start building the routines for them now. I will start with building one routine, and then slowly add more in.

4.Blog Regularly:

  • By December 31,2023, I will blog regularly, based on a schedule I create. I’ve always enjoyed blogging, but do not keep it up as much as I would like to. I am setting a goal for myself to create a schedule for blogging, and stick with the schedule as much as I possibly can.

5. Learning

By December 31, 2023, I learn new skills, such as HTML programming, natural dyes, herb growing, and other skills that come up throughout the year. As a life-long learner, I enjoy learning new things but struggle to set aside the time to focus on continuing to build my skills. By making learning a priority this year, I am setting aside time to build the skills I want to and to use those skills in my hobbies and every day life.

6. Other:

  • Career Goals. This is part of the reason I’m limiting myself to 3-4 projects a month. The 3-4 projects are from the personal goals listed above, but this still leaves time for Career Goals. Part of the reason I wasn’t reaching the 5 project a month goals is because I wasn’t really tracking much for career goals, at least not in the same way I track personal goals. So I was doing a lot in my career, which takes time and energy, but not counting it with the projects I completed. This made is seem like I was doing less than I was actually doing. This year, I’m cutting back on how many personal goals I expect to meet each month (3-4) but will continue to work on career goals outside of my personal goals. It is much more realistic than trying to meet both career and personal goals while only noting the time for personal goals in my schedule.

Two great reads for building habits, creating routine and finishing projects are:

  1. Start Finishing, by Charlie Gilkey
  2. Atomic Habits, by James Clear

As we wrap up 2022 and head into a New Year, I look forward to seeing where life takes us next. If nothing else, life is an adventure and sometimes it feels like the twists and turns will never stop. I’ve made a plan for next year, but I can guarantee nothing will go 100% as planned out. That’s just part of living. I’ll reevaluate throughout the year, adjust the plan as needed and keep moving forward. In the end, I think that’s what really matters, that we keep going and don’t give up. I may not reach 100% of my goals, but I will know I did the best I could to get there, and changed directions when needed.